Where is your power? Why do you feel powerless?

I think this is a much-needed conversation. I meet so many of you in the Facebook community who say, “Nicole, I just don’t feel like I have any true power. I feel powerless.” So I wanted to dive into this topic.

Power is defined as moving or traveling with great speed or force and also the ability to direct and influence those around you. So honestly we need power whether we are entrepreneurs, a leader in our home, or a leader in the community. Power is essential in all areas.

But, what happens when you have lost your power or feel powerless? Where do we lose our power?

Losing our power to well-intentioned people.

It starts with well-intentioned people, you know, like our parents, our family, our friends, who began to define our voice. They define our voice based on their experiences in life or based on the status quo and their belief systems. They train us based on what makes them feel comfortable and where they are in life. So sometimes the power that we need lies in understanding what was learned or demonstrated in those key relationships.

Losing our power to people who want us to stay comfortable.

These are people who are afraid to challenge themselves, go to their next and their best and rise to their greatness. It’s in an effort to actually keep people in the same place as them because it keeps them comfortable.

I know this firsthand. When I stepped out to launch my first business 13 years ago, I was surrounded by people who I considered to be friends. And honestly, now I can say they were lessons for me because I expected them to fully support, engage and be really excited about what I was doing.  Instead, I found great opposition. I now know I needed every ounce of that opposition. So I’m very thankful for the experience. But I also realize they were a major source of power depletion. I spent needless time and energy trying to figure them out.

You may be going through that right now. You may be saying, “I’m ready to break into the next level or higher version of myself.” But you just can’t muster the courage or power to step beyond your comfortable circle.  You just don’t feel you have what it takes to get it done.

I want to point these key areas out to you because it’s only in hindsight that I’m really able to see and share that some of the relationships and some of the things that I was doing were actually inhibiting my ability to move forward.

Losing our power to traditions of men

Sometimes there’s a struggle because everybody around us is doing one thing.  The traditions are one way yet internally we feel something different. We’re supposed to do this and supposed to do that according to some persons methods, doctrine, and philosophy. We begin to feel that internal friction. We were divinely wired to be a certain person.  We were created with certain skill sets and talents specific to our purpose yet we opt for the traditions of men. Many people ignore the strong pull towards one direction and move in the direction of normalcy. Your life choices are made based on false ideas that you’ve accepted and unspoken rules and regulations that keep you stuck. Many people are living in the shadows and guise of rules and regulations that were never meant to hold them back.

Staying in power.

You have to be really intentional to stay in power. You have to put those relationships, in the appropriate space. You ’ll have to learn how to compartmentalize.

I’m reading a book right now called Necessary Endings by John Townsend and  Dr. Henry Cloud. If you have the opportunity, you need to pick up the book. It can bless your life and your business as well. It talks about the effect that relationships have on us, how sometimes we’re ready to blossom and in order to do so we’ll have to impose some necessary endings.  Endings can represent everything from partnerships to thought patterns.

Most of us don’t like changes. It’s not fun but in essence, not making changes is holding us back. A byproduct of making necessary endings and changes is tremendous growth and peace.

How do I get power back?

Is this you?

• I feel powerless.  
• I have lost my voice.
• I know there is more to life.
• I am off the path.
• I am ready for a change! I am ready for BREAKTHROUGH!

Well, you’ve got to find your purpose.

I know that it sounds cliche, but the only way people will stop telling you who you are is if you know who you are.

When you find your purpose, the people around you will have to respect it. When you find your purpose and you walk in it and own it, you will reclaim your power.

You’ll have the fortitude to be able to say you know who you are, but it also will give you the power to say that you know who you’re not.

If you’re on this journey and you’ve been following me for any amount of time, you know that my mission field is purpose and business.

I always start with purpose because I want to make sure that you know who you are and I want to make sure that once we work together that you know who you are and what you’re building.

The only way to reclaim your power is to know who you are. Otherwise, you’ll remain in a needless and tireless power struggle  I want to prevent you from getting in that cycle. So I encourage you to get in tune with who you are.

Who are you and why you’re here?  If you would like to schedule a time to talk, set up a Breakthrough Session now.